LOVE is a huge word!!

We often sit & think about how it would be to be in Love, what it is actually like being in Love, is it actually good or bad to deeply passionately Love somebody, is it really good to care for somebody more than you care for yourself, most importantly is that what you feel is Love only - and not those loose physical attractions or infatuations..

Define the four-letter word LOVE-
“Love- It’s a great feeling. It makes you feel great. The very thought of being in love with someone is great, sharing special precious moments, sharing talks, sharing life. Doing crazy things together, fighting over small small topics & then setting your so-called ego aside & surrendering to your partner, making memories and then being together to remember those memories. Laugh over them, cry over them. Seems its all the great good things you feel! You close your eyes, you see him and smile at the very thought of him. You are so very sure that you love him to the core..You love that person more than yourself..more than anything else..any of your possessions..
Isn’t it??
Think again..

Love is not that simple..
Imagine your love is unwell for a while. Is unable to move out of bed..So sick that need care & attention all the time. Need you, your entire time. Will you be there?? Will you be there all the time, time till they become very fine?? You know there’ll be vomit. Will you be ready to move closer to their back to pat them & to make it easy for them?? Or would you simply jump back with a disgusted look? Will you clean their vomit? Will be there sitting beside their bed whole night jus to ensure that they sleep properly? Will you be there to wake up in the middle of the night to give them medicine? Will you caryy them to the bathroom no matter how tired you are? Will you be there to provide help during any time of the day or night? To make something as small as tea or coffee or a bowl of soup even at 3 A.M? Will you be patient? Will you still experience that love you imagined earlier when you closed your eyes & saw his/her face? Does it still seem pretty?Or do you leave them to deal with their sickness alone?? Are you strong enough? Is your love string enough? Are you ready to sacrifice for them- sacrifice everything for a while & just be with them – sacrifice your time, money, job, friends, comfort, relaxation, life? Can you?? Are you strong enough? Is your love strong enough?? ? It's not easy and not everyone can do it.
Think again. Think hard. Be sure.

Everything in LOVE is not happy. & great. There are testing moments always thrown in between. To test your affection, To test your promise, Your strength., Your support. Moments that test your love, that test YOU!! You can not say that you love someone because you feel like spending nice time with them, because you have fun with them all the while. You can not say you love someone because you want to see the world with them. When you realize that you can be with someone and be there for them always, no matter what, no matter what other things demand, then it's “TRUE LOVE”. When you know that no force in the world can break the promise you made, then it's “TRUE LOVE”. When doing something for the one you love gives you a pleasure, unmatched to when your most cherished dream came true, then it's “TRUE LOVE”. When that tiniest twinkle in the eyes of the one you love gives you immense happiness, makes you forget all your worries & sorrows, then it’s “TRUE LOVE”. When amidst all the gloom, you are able to smile, smile for them, to make them feel well, then that's “TRUE LOVE”. When you derive pleasure by surrendering to the one you love, then that is “TRUE LOVE”.

So if you think you are in love, always think about the other side of love as well. Think different. Feel different. Evolve Continuously. Experience something greater. Love differently!!

Is it too much i demand for??

Don wanna Mocha Chillos at Café Coffee day

But jus some ice golas at a street shop

Don wanna high heels or smoky eyes

But jus my blue jeans and some dark kohl

Donna wanna those disco nights

But jus some cotton candies

Don wanna a luxurious date & candle light dinners

But jus some long drives and a brunch

Don wanna dose expensive bouquets

But jus some hand picked flowers

Don wanna Mercs and some diamonds

But jus some long walks and spicy-desi-chaat

Those heavy gold jewellery

Those diamond rings

Are too big & bold for me

Only warm assuring hugs

And gentle passionate kisses

Is all i want

Yess, all i want

Is a heart of gold!!

Live Joyously, Love Selflessly :)

Life is short. Let’s learn to enjoy it. Each experience, each event, each encounter is to be savored and treasured. In hindsight, each of these would be useful to our development and evolution. If the attitude is right, one can truly enjoy life and make us experience heaven on earth. For what is heaven but an endlessly period of joy and bliss?

There are times when I feel that the situation is painful and I want to get it over with. It is bitter and sour and not pleasant. At such times I just try to remember that most medicines are bitter and despite that, they are good for us. One should learn to look at the good things in life.

When we thus live life joyously, we start loving everything and everyone around us. We feel that we are in a generous mood and are willing to share the joy with others around us. This is a selfless gesture wherein we have no expectations but to see the same joy in others. This is what I call ‘loving selflessly’

So, if you live joyously and love selflessly, you are already in a state of Nirvana and are in a mood to give and forgive. That mood qualifies you for reaching the supreme. And you are one with God!!

Honesty-A key to a Relationship

Ahh..atlast I am finally writing an article after such a long time..i am actually overwhelmed to write an article on a quality which is most vital according to me to form bonds of TRUST in human relationships!!

Honesty, as per its definition, is obviously the act of telling the truth and is a state of mind. It is an ATTITUDE...a CODE. Today in our modern materialistic society we really need the trait and quality of honesty. But before that we must learn what the word ‘honesty’ means? Different people will have different opinions about honesty like—

1) Telling the truth.

2) Being truthful, trustworthy, honorable, fair, genuine, and loyal with integrity.

3) A straightforward conduct.

4) Free from fraud or deception, humble, innocent, simple and creditable.

5) Opposite of lying, the opposite of bluffing, the opposite of hypocrisy and the opposite of deceit.

To me ‘honesty’ is the NAME OF SINCERITY; it's the PURITY OF HEART and also the reverence for GOD!!

One needs to be honest with oneself and needs to understand WHAT IS THAT YOU WANT and THE REASONS YOU WANT IT!! This way, you won’t hurt anybody’s feelings.

From a woman’s point of view, there are two types of honesty:

1) Honesty seeking a reaction or approval from someone else.

2) Being honest with you and not seeking a reaction from anyone else and being GENUINE.

When you are honest with a woman, do not expect a reaction you are being a man. Women will respect you so much more if you are honest with them.

By being honest to woman would convey all the right signals. It shows her that you know what you want, which MOST MEN DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS THEY WANT and get into a relationship for the wrong reasons!!

I’ve seen many men who are scared to tell the truth, befooling themselves, because they think it is wrong or it’s going to scare the woman away. But the fact is the more you lie to women the more problems you are causing in the relationship!!

It confuses me so much to why men lie to woman when it is ultimately going to result in causing more pain..??

There are people who say, “Ohh I simply forgot to tell u about this in this situation, or forgot to tell you about that in a situation..” N guess, you would never gonna be believable!! Thus, BELIEVABLE-NESS is critical in the HONESTY!! When a question comes up and the other person wants to know, give it the full picture because when you do not give a full picture, your credibility will certainly go down to ZERO!!

Wot I personally believe is dat , “Its better to clear the air in the beginning that to have questions after the facts”

Honesty is something which shines like a light through your eyes!!

Atlast,

"The foundation stones for a balanced success in a relationship or otherwise are--Honesty, Character, Integrity, Faith, Love and Loyalty"

Yet another blooper?!!

Hmm..m here to write about funny mistakes I’ve done in the past 5 months—from jan till may’09, which has left me in some really embarrassing moments..Here it goes..

1) Jeannie in a bottle baby

It was the day when I went to purchase a gift for my buddy, pranali on 26^th feb at hallmark stores in gandhinagar. I picked up a nice bottle of Charlie Perfume & kept on gazing at for long, when a lil kid dashed with me. The bottle which I was inspecting before few secs took no long time to be converted into pieces and the liquid being spilled everywhere on the floor & even on my pants. God..i generally so good when it comes to handling things, never let them drop here & there was left blank as everybody kept on starting at me as if they’d seen some alien from Mars!!

2) The Testimonial Business

I’d made my mind to pen down few traits of pankaj in around march or so..thanks to the testimonial services of orkut! It was that day I’d cum across an informal English term ‘bimbo’ which I thot meant ‘slow brains’ ( which actually was absolutely incorrect, rather it meant girls with no brain). I pre-maturely took a decision of putting it into use without confirming its meaning in the dictionary or over the internet. To my wildest imaginations I addressed him twice using the term in his testimonial! Wot a blooper!! It was a good laugh for the moron. Though as always he corrected me, but I was left in an embarrassing situation again!

3) New Blunder on a New Year

Ahh is internet a reliable source of information??! I say NO! Not always..It was this sindhi new year in around march end, when I texted all my sindhi friends greeting them & giving them best wishes for their new year. I’d gotta know about this over the internet. None of my friends responded to my message, & I felt really disgusting bout that..But it was no that late when my jijosa, my sweetest sister’s sindhi prince told me that it wasn’t their new year dat day, rather they’ll be celebrating it on the coming day..Me as always, simply uttered the 2-letter word ‘OK’

4) Jeans turning into Jean Capris

It was this day when I went along with ankita on her Active scooter to shop for clothes. She drives awesome, hav no doubt or fear about her driving. But it was when we reached the Helmet circle, and an idiotic guy dashed his Hyundai Accent (see I remember the car even) with her scooter & the car bumper which hit my leg tore my bell jeans and transformed them into a Capri!! Dint go for shopping then..huh..

5) A Walk to Remember

Dada (my bro) wot to say about him?!! I was there to help him out to tie his tie with a Windsor knot in one the reception ceremonies at Cama hotel, a’bad, when afterwards he disappeared from the place to attend a phone call. I, unaware about the fact held the sleeves of somebody standing beside me, thinking it was him & started walking. It was when I actually heard dada calling my nick name from behind, I realized that I’d held the hand of a stranger..Godd.. it dint took even a microsecond for me to leave him.. :D

A Poem

Somewhere in your mind,
Somewhere deep down,
Inside of yourself
There is a rage
For something better!
(Something new)

All of your dreams,
All of your anticipations,
They cause a drive
To make us stronger!
(Keep it alive)
Chase your thoughts
Chase your dreams
Into the night,

Chase your thoughts
Chase your dreams
Keep it alive!
Our time is now
Take hold of the lighting

Ride to the stars,
Break free the shell,
That has you imprisoned
(Escape tonight)

All the fruits
That life has in store
Someday we all will learn
To give our love once more
Fight!
For your heart
Fight!
For your soul
Never give in
Chase your dreams!
Oh can't you see
It's just outside
Of your grasp
You've got to reach out
With both hands
Grab that tiger by the tail!!

Eat right, Exercise regularly, Die anyway!!

Three keys to success are- Attitude, Planning and Determination.

Following are the 9-commandments that will help you to stay fit and avoid gaining weight:

1) Separate food from television

Eating, napping and channel-surfing—if these consume most of your leisure hours, you’ll end up gaining weight! Make healthy & light food choices. Fill your plate with the quantity right for you. Be fully aware of ‘WHAT’ and ‘HOW MUCH’ goes into your system!!

2) Avoid skipping meals before a party

Don’t starve yourself during the day in anticipation of an evening party. If you eat at ‘regular intervals’ during the day, you are less likely to over-eat at night! The body has an internal clock and the metabolism is regulated by regular cycles. Learn to respect these cycles!! When you are fuelled right, its easier to avoid a feeling of “out-of-control” hunger.

3) Divide before you Devour

No need to desert the dessert, divide it. Pleasure is best when shared!! In this way your taste buds are satisfied, portion size decreases and calorie intake is reduced!!

4) Leave something on your plate

No one believes you’ve ate enough if your plate is empty. If you plate has a little food, you wont be coaxed to eat more

5) Chew your food and not Swallow

Each mouthful should be chewed no less than 20 times. It takes about 20 minutes for your brain to realize you’re full, so if you swallow a meal in 10 minutes, then you’re still hungry and might make the mistake of eating more. Now, if you would SLOWLY eat that meal, masticating every bite for a while, then it might take you more than 20 minutes and you will feel satisfied and won’t need anymore food. Chewing your food slowly will not make you digest it rapidly but it will give your brain time to know that you don’t need to eat more…When you have teeth, you should use them so your stomach does not have to do all the work!!

6) “Eat” lots of water with your meals

Eat high water-content foods that will fill you up and help you lose weight. Examples are watermelon, oranges, pineapples, sweet lime, grapefruit, tomatoes & cucumber. Starchy vegetables on the other hand, like potatoes, corn etc. are harder to digest than those that contain more water. In addition drink atleast 8 glasses of water a day!

7) Take breaks to deep breathe

Do you binge eat when you are bored, angry, depressed or tensed?? Relax, deep breathe several times. Decide to do something to take your mind off food. This will help you to distinguish between actual hunger and eating due to emotional responses!!

8) Do not get derailed if you go off-track

Its inevitable that even the most determined get a bit off-track occasionally. Jus remember that it’s the final goal that counts. So get back on track as soon as possible. Don’t get immobilized with guilt!

9) “Excuse proof” your exercise routine

Schedule “workout” in your daily planner. If you lack self-discipline, find an exercise trainer or a workout-buddy to help you to stay committed.. Make exercise an important part of your daily life. Indulge yourself into activities like jogging/brisk-walking, gymming, aerobics, yoga, playing outdoor games, doing small household chores etc. which not only helps you to burn calories but also improve ur stamina!!